Many problems diagnosed “paranoid”, are created in such a process. You can see such problems created in the family or at work. It is characterized by a sense that others “ignore” me, or they are “talking behind my back”. The individual is trying to deal with this kind of difficulty by trying to show he is “calm” and “indifferent”, but his behavior is interpreted by others as a change that has no sense and their reaction is to take a real distance from him. Distancing reinforces the suspicions of the individual and increases the avoidance of others from him
For example, processes that occur between adolescents and their concerned parents, when they interpret behaviors designed to develop privacy as strange and isolating. As they try to find out the meaning of his “retreat”, the adolescent interprets this act as intervention in his privacy and acts even harder to isolate himself from his parents’ involvement in his life, he stops to share his business, isolates himself in his room, and does not report on leaving or returning home
Particularly a situation of a student at school can be serious when children tease him. When the phenomenon of harassment is repeated, he may interpret the situation as an attempt to seriously harm him or to isolate him from other children. Such a child may respond by avoiding participation in classroom events, school trips, parties and other gatherings. His keeping away from participation in school activities increases the bullying of children who interpret his behavior as strange or alternatively patronizing
Conventional therapists, to whom the boy will be referred, can interpret the behavior at least a paranoid or very close to paranoid. Circuit may close the child when the teacher talks to the parents and expresses concern of his avoidance condition expressed by immediate withdrawal of the other.
Brief therapy, solution-oriented approach, takes seriously such possibility, and finds generally avoiding as the problem itself. Avoidance is seen here as a disfunctional way not to deal with arising difficulties, real or imagined. Avoidance increases in others the sense of “strangeness” of the person in focus and increases, accordingly, further disregard.