Here is an attempt to reach a solution by eliminating the risks in situations where their existence is inevitable, for example: situations of acquaintanceship between men and women, or job interviews. In these situations there is always some risk of rejection.
For example, a person prepares himself for a job interview. He wants very much to succeed, but is very aware of the possibility of rejection. In order to prevent rejection he is learning safe “methods” not to be rejected. He takes care of his dressing, he participates in workshops that prepare him for a job interview. When the “methods” are not “working” he is looking for better ways to succeed. Such efforts can be expressed, for example, by addressing himself to psychosocial institutes that prepare him
for the interviews or he may go to medical institutions for surgery that he believes is improving his appearance. When a person is repeatedly rejected he thinks something is wrong with him and the result can be increased feeling of rejection and personal failure.
A similar situation can be a case of trying to meet a partner. A young man, shy and inexperienced, wants to meet a woman but is afraid of rejection. This fear can lead to avoid contact with women. Repeated experiences of rejection increase the pattern of
avoidance as a solution of such difficulties even though the rejection is part of the structured rules of “game” that exist between young and dating.